What To Do When A Woman Gives You Her Phone Number

There I was, at my coop, sitting at an empty desk by myself in the staff room eating some fruit and dicking around on twitter. I don’t like to sit with other people during my breaks as they tend to only talk about stupid shit that has nothing to do with me at all. Like their silly work drama. No thanks. I’d rather talk about the weather.

As I sat there eating my snack I heard someone walk by and say, “Hey D, how is room 2 treating you?” (inside joke because I call it “room 2” instead of the other name they call it). A little bit of normal back and forth banter. Then she handed me a piece of paper and some candy:

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She looked a bit nervous, repeated herself, and seemed rushed. Exactly how I ask girls for their number. Pretty eye opening.

I’d like to tell you that I was super suave and cool. But not really. I felt like a hot girl. I had a big smile on my face when she gave it to me. I’m sure I looked as goofy as usual.

She said we never get a chance to hang out and chat so we should grab a drink after March Break (that’s this week). I agreed.

I don’t usually have women giving me their phone number. But it has happened a few times. I expect it to happen a bit more the older I get.

I have roughly four weeks of coop left after the March Break. I’d rather not go on a date with someone then see them at work the next day.  I want to time the date so I don’t see her for too many times at coop after the date. I’d like to have a smooth exit from my coop with no drama.

So all in all it was a cool experience. Here are some tips I’d recommend for the next time a woman gives you (or me) their phone number:

  • Play it cool. She might be a bit nervous so make it easy on her.
  • Take her number. Say something like, “Ya that sounds like fun. Lets meet up after….”
  • Leave the conversation and go back to what you were doing. It’s like any other day. Have the mindset of, Women give me their numbers all the time so it’s no big deal. It’s not. It’s just a number.
  • Although I haven’t yet, make the texting short and sweet. Use it for logistics for the date. At least at first.
  • Set up the date ASAP.
  • Run normal Date Game.

Have any of you guys had women give you their number? If so feel free to share your story with us!

What Should You Do When An Ex Girlfriend Contacts You? 2nd Edition

The Text

There I was, sitting at a table by myself, while on a break during my co-op placement. Enjoying some blueberries and checking my phone (and checking out potential attractive workplace-hotties walking in and out of the staff room).

I look down at my phone and see a text notification. Well, well, what do we have here. The classic, “Hey…

Women like to dip in and out of your life (examples here, here, and here ). At least the women you had somewhat of an impact on. Or the ones that are bored. Or horny. Or for really any reason (hopefully the horny one).

It can seem arbitrary when they do send you the, “Hey…” text, but believe me, there’s a method to their madness. They’re bound by their cyclical nature and crafty style.

I shared the text I got on Twitter and asked what people thought about it. Here are some responses:

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 The Decision

I suppose as long as you’re not butthurt or worried about how you’ll act or feel around your ex, then there’s no harm in catching up. I think.

I hadn’t spoken to her since we had after-breakup-sex. That was October of last year.

Before that I hadn’t seen her since I dropped her shit off, that was a few months even further back, summer time I think.

Let’s have some fun breaking down some of this text, because that’s always fun.

Hey D, long time no talk.

Well ya. Did you expect me to contact you after we broke up? The answer is yes, yes she did.

Was thinking about you lately, this time last year I was at (EDIT: my old apartment) a lot haha.

Remember earlier I said women are cyclical? Well this time of year reminds her of me. She got to thinking how awesome I was (am) and just had to get a hold of me.

Anyway, I was also thinking about how we left off, and how I saw you a couple of months ago and just never txted you after you left.

I thought that’s what exes do – have sex a couple times after breaking up and then ghost each other. Say good-bye to romance and enjoy the decline.

I feel weird about that.

I’m actually curious as to why she feels weird about that. But more importantly, who cares.

Hope all is well, just wanted to say hi

Just wanted to say hi, eh. Somehow I doubt that.

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That text could’ve been worse. She could’ve said mean things in it. But it was actually quite cordial and civil.

“So D, what did you end up doing?” you may ask. Well, I did exactly what any recovering beta would do – meet up with the ex and try to get laid.

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We met at a pub. Chatted a bit. Went home to my place and had sloppy drunk sex.

Here are some reactions from people when I told them I was going to meet up with the ex:

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What Should You Do When An Ex Girlfriend Contacts You?

There are a couple schools of thought on this…

  • If you aren’t butthurt about replying, go ahead. Use minimal effort though.
  • Set up a meet and greet ASAP. Don’t, “talk about things”. The most likely reason she is contacting you is to get some dick. Oblige her if you want (especially if you are on a dry streak).
  • For the love of all that is sacred and holy – WEAR A CONDOM!

or

  • Let her know your terms for getting back together (I highly do not recommenced this, sex is fine sure, but any other type of commitment, no thanks don’t do it!)

or

  • The longer you go without finding a new broad the higher the risk of beta behaviours and regression.
  • Ignore her and carry on with your life (probably the best option, although I’m still trying to practice what I preach, sometimes I just need to get laid ya know?).

What do you think, what you you do?

Small World

A young woman (22 yo) I went on a date with a few months ago is working with me for a week at my new job. I knew I recognized her. Small world.

We went on a date at the pub. The date was fun, but I didn’t see us going on more than a date or two (met her during my yearly “dating blitz” so I had other more potential prospects).

Today as I was getting some things together in the office I was telling one of my other coworkers that I recognized her. My coworker said, “Do you know her from the same friend group or maybe from school?” Nope. I knew it was a date.

My temperament wouldn’t of permitted me to go the full week without bringing it up to the girl I went on a date with. I had to ask her right away, “I recognize you. Did we go on a date a few moths ago?” She responds, “I’m not sure, maybe?”

She seemed a bit nervous. Her face went red. I didn’t pester her. I knew I was right.

An hour goes by and I check my phone, “Lets test this one out…. Haha”

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Confirmed. It is her. She remembered where we went on the date. We had a good laugh about it.

As you can see the last message was on May 29th. As usual I was being cheeky and was trying to get her over for a movie. But she was being insanely flakey so we never had that movie date.

There is about half a million people in my city. Never thought I’d run into her. As long as I’m not weird about it, this week should finish off smooth.

This has been a fun and intersting summer so far. How about you, how’s your summer going, any funny situations happen to you?


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