If you’re anything like me and you’ve been reading about dating and the differences between men and women for awhile now, then, at some point you decided reading was enough. We had too see it for ourselves.
But, what about the differences between women and other women?
I’m no expert but over the years I have noticed certain things about younger women and older women that cannot be ignored.
Today I’m not going to go through all the differences between women of different ages. That can be found here.
Instead I’m going to share with you two message exchanges. One from a 22 year old and one from a 27 year old. I don’t know these women that much. Especially the younger one. You’ll see why in a moment. But even though I haven’t met them in person yet, I’m still able to notice a few things from either one. (Seriously, get this book. No affiliate)
After the online messaging I’ll post each ones text messaging exchange as well.
We’ll That Was Easy (22 yo)
(Not too sure how this date is going to work out. None of my friends want to drink during the week. It may be two against one. In the past I’ve showed up to dates where a girls friends were there and ended up getting the lay. But social proof and pre-selection were major factors.)
ME: (username), I’m diggin your profile write up! Cute pic as well : )
By the way, +1 for the binge watching flicks. I’m running out of shows to watch! (I stopped binge watching awhile ago)
-D
Sent from the OkCupid app Friday
HER: Thank you :) I’m currently marathoning American Horror Story, I really enjoy it. The acting is amazing!
Sent on Saturday
ME: I’ve heard good things about that show. I finally started watching Always Sunny
Sent from the OkCupid app Saturday
ME: You seem cool : ) and I’d like to get to know you a bit so…
If you were stuck on a island and you could only pick one thing to keep what would it be and why?
Your music
Your tv shows or
Your gaming system (stuff from her profile)
Sent from the OkCupid app Saturday
HER: Maybe gaming cause I can make my own music and I can make up stories in my head :)
Sent from the OkCupid app Saturday
ME: Damn good answer!
You know what, I’d like to grab a drink with you next week, when are you free?
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
HER: Hahah glad you appreciate my answer :)
I’m going out with one of my best friends Wednesday, bring a friend and you can join us :)?
Sent on Sunday
ME: Interesting…where abouts are you headed?
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
HER: We haven’t decided where we’re going yet, it’ll be downtown though :)
Sent on Sunday
ME: Sounds like that could be fun.
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
ME: How about we exchange numbers
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
HER: ###-####-###
Sent on Sunday
ME: Great, ###-####-###
Sent on Sunday
HER: Adding you now :)
Sent on Sunday
Since Jump Street (27 yo)
(If you have a weak stomach then please wait 30min before going swimming. Cringe worthy material to follow. I must be pretty thirsty. Goddamnit.)
ME: Hiya (username). You play bass, +1 for that
More like guitars-R-us, I jam as well
-D
Sent on Wednesday
HER: Hey D :) sorry it took so long for me to get back to you. Been busy. I do play guitar! 11 years now. How about you? How long have you been playing for? Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
HER: Do you have anymore pictures by chance?
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
ME: Hi. 11 years, thats cool.
Me, just a few years now.
Nope thats all the pics!
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
HER: Yep. It’s fun. Cool you’ll get better as long as you keep playing.
You def need more pictures.
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
ME: Na, I like how many there. Just a few to get a glimpse ; )
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
HER: There’s only 1 that I can see
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
ME: Really? Weird. Which one
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
ME: I got the profile pic and 4 photos in an album
Sent on Sunday
HER: Where’s the album? I just see your profile pic
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
ME: try er now…
Sent on Sunday
HER: Yes that worked :) very nice
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
HER: The one with you wearing a hat is cute lol
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
ME: Thanks (usename) ; )
What is your name by the way ha
I have a feeling you’re cool. How about we grab a drink sometime soon
-D
Sent on Sunday
HER: Ur welcome lol. My name is Kelly, sorry I should have let you know that after you gave me your name earlier lol.
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
HER: Ya maybe after we get to know each other for a bit then we can meet up for a drink or something. I just don’t rush.
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
ME: Yes. I understand. And thank you for being honest. It’s a rare gift these days.
It’s just this okcupid messaging is tedious, you know what I mean? I’m on here to find someone I might click with, but, I won’t really know until I meet them.
I don’t want to waste your time either Kelly. You’re a busy girl…and cute
Sent on Sunday
HER: Your not wasting my time at all. You seems very nice and kind, it would be cool to get to know you better :) I am a very honest girl. I believe that’s the only way things should be if anything is going to last.
Are you looking for a serious girlfriend after meeting her if you click? That’s what I am looking for, I just believe in taking my time getting to know a person. I am genuine about it. I don’t play head games, that stuff is for kids.
I am looking for a good respectful guy who knows how to treat a girl right. Just get to know each other as friends first and if there is chemistry than take it further and be together as a couple. It doesn’t have to happen fast tho.
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
ME: Your level of honesty is attractive. I’m looking for a girlfriend, yes. And I’ll be going on dates until I find her.
I’m glad to see you know what you want. Not a lot of young women your age do.
Sent on Sunday
HER: Well thank you. I definitely know what I am looking for in a man. Mainly a man and not a boy lol I am through with those. I want something long term that’s going to last not someone I can see for 3 months and than break it off with him. I actually don’t have much experience to be most honest with you. But I know who I am looking for.
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
HER: That’s good to hear you are looking for a girlfriend. It sounds like we are looking for the same thing. I understand it takes meeting a person first before you can even say you like them or the things that make them who they are. I am a fun, outgoing good communicator. I am down to earth, helpful, honest, caring, thoughtful and very supportive. I love help other people because it makes me happy inside to see others smile.
Sent from the OkCupid app Sunday
ME: I want you to be the most honest with me. So far I think you have.
Listen Kelly, you’ve ‘ticked all my boxes’ so far, by what you’ve said and how you’ve said it. I know enough about you to feel comfortable enough to at least want to have a coffee with you soon : )
If you don’t feel the same, It’s all good cutie.
Here’s my number…. ###-####-###.
Message me sometime if you’d like to chat more. -D
Sent on Sunday
HER: Wow. Well thanks D :) it’s been a plessor chatting with you :) I will text you tomorrow morning some time! I will always be honest. It’s just who I am. Have a great night! I am off to bed for now. I ran a 5km earlier tonight and I am now super tired lol. Take care :)
Sent from the OkCupid app Yesterday
HER: There! I just texted you :) chat soon.
Sent from the OkCupid app Yesterday
You don’t have to be super smart to see the investment level, from everyone, in each of the interactions. I’m also sure you can see the red flags all over the place.
It was fairly easy to get the 22 year old’s number. The 27 year old? Goddamn. I went too deep too quick with that one.
I’m not the best at breaking down this kind of stuff. That’s why I posted it with little commentary. I would very much like to hear from you guys constructive criticism, critiques, harsh examinations or even flat out making fun of me. It’s all in good fun and everyone gets to learn something. Feel free to leave your thoughts in the comments.
I’ve gotta go do some other shit so I’ve only read about half way through but
” I am a very honest girl. I believe that’s the only way things should be if anything is going to last.”
Made me laugh my fucking ass off. She’s as honest as she needs to be I hope you don’t buy into half the shit they say. Anyway, I’ll read the rest when I’ve got some time and give you my take on it.
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I think in future posts like these I won’t put the whole interaction. Seems too long. What do you think?
“I hope you don’t buy into half the shit they say.”
Heck no. I stopped communicating with her. I was put off by the fact she told me about her medical conditions and that she was basically unemployed. Too much lady! I googled “Endometrioses” (actually spelt ‘Endometriosis‘).
From Wikipedia: “Endometriosis is a disease in which tissue that normally grows inside the uterus grow outside the uterus.[1] Its main symptoms are pelvic pain and infertility. Nearly half have chronic pelvic pain while in 70% pain occurs during menstruation. Pain with sex is also common. Infertility occurs in up to half of people.[2]”
I mean that sucks for her, but, goddamn! Did she think I wasn’t going to google it?? No thanks.
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Holy tits, its like pulling teeth. One basic thing I notice though is that the older chick is much more willing to type long-ass messages. This is probably a good thing in terms of investment. You could have the potential to run some longer game on her and practice the good ole seduction. The younger one is more of a wham-bam situation. When you go on a date with her it will either sink or swim.
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“This is probably a good thing in terms of investment. You could have the potential to run some longer game on her and practice the good ole seduction.”
I would really like the opportunity to run long game on a girl. But my Spidey-Sense is going off the charts with this one! I’ll pass. (Now I know what moderately to hot attractive girls online must feel like when they stop communicating with guys that say the wrong stuff.)
“The younger one is more of a wham-bam situation. When you go on a date with her it will either sink or swim.”
Good call. That’s what I’m thinking. This ‘date’ will be interesting. Her best friend from out of town is with her and I’m joining them at a bar I’ve never been to. The ratio is not on my side but, to be honest, I just want the experience of dating again. I got to get that shit down so I feel more comfortable going on dates. I can game both of them, especially if her friend is fat and ugly. We’ll see.
By the way I quite enjoyed your Hit and Run posts. Nice story telling.
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“This is probably a good thing in terms of investment. You could have the potential to run some longer game on her and practice the good ole seduction.”
I would really like the opportunity to run long game on a girlfriend. But my Spidey-Sense is ging off the charts with this one! I’ll pass. (Now I know what moderately to hot attractive girls online must feel like when they stop communicating with guys that say the wrong stuff.)
“The younger one is more of a wham-bam situation. When you go on a date with her it will either sink or swim.”
Good call. That’s what I’m thinking. This ‘date’ will be interesting. Her best friend from out of town is with her and I’m joining them at a bar I’ve never been to. The ratio is not on my side but, to be honest, I just want the experience of a dating again. I got to get that shit down so I feel more comfortable going on dates. I can game both of them, especially if her friend is fat and ugly. We’ll see.
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actually not bad for OKC. I rarely use it in So Cal but it is a case of two extremes, either fat as a house or an ok looking belle of the ball. It’s astonishing how thirsty guys will make a 5 feel like a 10. Anyway, since I’m so selective, I rarely talk to any females through OKC so I give you kudos for even getting a response considering they get 100 messages a day. I have two female acquaintances that have tried all the dating apps and they said they will get 200 likes and message a day and they’re not even prime time girls.
So I give kudos for your ability to interact and as you said there are plenty of red flags from the ladies, particularly #2. Just stick to your guns and watch your six. Maintain your frame and don’t cave just so you can drink cheap wine if you know what I mean.
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Thanks BrianS. Welcome to DCLlive. Thanks for taking the time to comment.
“either fat as a house or an ok looking belle of the ball. It’s astonishing how thirsty guys will make a 5 feel like a 10.”
Ha. Same here man. And to be real honest, I’ve done that same ‘inflating the smv of ugly women’ thing, just because I was horny and thirsty. I got to be careful with that.
“I have two female acquaintances that have tried all the dating apps and they said they will get 200 likes and message a day and they’re not even prime time girls.”
I’ve come to terms with the fact women get WAY MORE attention with that stuff. No biggie. But it is amazing nonetheless.
“So I give kudos for your ability to interact and as you said there are plenty of red flags from the ladies, particularly #2. Just stick to your guns and watch your six. Maintain your frame and don’t cave just so you can drink cheap wine if you know what I mean.”
Thanks again. I’m better face-to-face with people. I think maybe I talked too long with the 27yo and should of pushed more for the date. A learning experience.
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