It can be hard for a recovering beta to know where to start. I thought if I just kept plugging away with being real nice and polite, revealing a lot about myself to anyone, moving slow with women and continuing to ignore the benefits of healthy eating and fitness, I would eventually find the “perfect mate” or she would find me.
It took one too many oneitises, one too many girls flaking and one too many fap-filled nights to finally get myself to realize that none of that worked and how easy it actually was to improve myself.
What’s In It For Me?
Learning game helps you get your dick wet. The red pill opens your eyes to the detrimental behaviour betas (like myself) have when interacting with women.
As the red pill digests, slowly, and the small steps I make when flirting with women show results, I have started to notice certain actions and behaviours in other people. I see them today in the women I work with at the pub, women at the gym and when I am meeting with support-work clients and their families.
For example, the two red pill concepts hypergamy and solipsism, that are sometimes written about wonderfully throughout the manosphere, have become increasingly obvious to me. The concepts make sense and I understand them. I can even remember situations within my own life that are great examples of each.
When you realize that game is natural and that it works, interacting with women, and people, is wicked fun. The change in my body movement and the awareness of the power of good eye contact has been vital in my progress with women.
I am sure this day in age most young men know what game is, or should. The internet and all, “It’s a series of tubes!” Also young men should have some idea of what hypergamy (alpha fucks beta bucks), solipsism (Me! Me! ME!) and other red pill truths are, based on their failures and successes with people and women.
Like me, perhaps we simply didn’t know how to describe or articulate these behaviours we would encounter with women. The Red Pill and Game can help with that.
Have I Seen This Before?
If a young man was NOT exposed to pua, insane-game tactics, red pill/blue pill and all he did was develop basic people skills, have some solid buddies, work out, eat well, find a hobby etc., he would still have much success in his life, especially with women. He would learn these things through trial and error ie. Failure. You know these guys. They are your older guy friends, your older brothers and his friends, uncles, your dads, grandfathers, you know.
They were doing ‘red pill’ shit before I was even making the race to the ‘Slot C Egg’ with the millions of my (fallen) sperm-brethren. Maybe they were the lucky ones….nah.
My dad and brother (love them to death) have already taught me everything they know about life and women up until this point. Do not get me wrong, my old man has been married for forty years. When and IF I ever get into a LTR I will not hesitate to ask him a few things.
But basically, from my dad I learned about the appreciation and value of hard work, how to be punctual, to have a sick sense of humour and how to do a mean chicken-wing during my high school wrestling days.
If it was not for my brother I think I would have been totally lost. He gave me a nudge in the right direction by handing me a book called, “The Game”. He also showed me some fashion and style basics that I had been ignoring for years.
But because I had no idea how to ask for help when it came to women, no tools for curbing bad behaviour and had no idea about things like abundance mentality, I felt like I needed to look elsewhere.
Where Do I Start?
Roughly five months ago I remember typing into Google something like, “tips on becoming a better man.” As you could guess there was a lot of content, well over fifty million search results. I picked what I thought was an eye catching post title called, “Manvotional: The Majesty of Calmness” by The Art Of Manliness. Then it snow-balled from there.
These are some places I stumbled upon around the time I started my journey through self-improvement. I believe they are great places to start for any recovering beta:
(*NOTE – I began my journey in this order. These days I would recommend going right to Rollo or tell you to book a permanent room at Chateau Heartiste.)
Conduct
The Art Of Manliness
How To Stop Saying Um – Becoming Well-Spoken: How to Minimize Your Uh’s and Um’s
Heading Out on Your Own Series: 31 Basic Life Skills in 31 Days
Drinks Are on Me! – How to Buy a Round at the Bar
Big archive on being an old-school dude. The Art Of Manliness is essentially where I started. I do however find it to be a little too politically-friendly, has articles for camping and shaving shit that I do not need and also it is not controversial in the slightest, which I happen to prefer.
Game
It works. Learn it. Do it.
GirlsChase
The Law Of Least Effort – Cool Guy
Sprezzatura, Effort, and Investing – Invest Less
Secrets To Getting Girls – Move Faster
A lot of great stuff. Huge archive of very applicable stuff. There are some posts that are really long and heavy on theory. Get outside and get to work.
Pill
As my thirst for something more raw and unfiltered grew I then came across some inspiring articles about The Red Pill.
RooshV
How To Be A Man
Men Are Nothing More Than Clowns To The Modern Woman – Western Women Don’t Need Men
The Manosphere Is Lost – The Decline
Rollo Tomassi of TheRationalMale
The Preventative Medicine Series – Part I Part II Part III Part IV
SMV Ratios & Attachment – Sexual Marketplace Landscape
Final Exam – Navigating the SMP
Chateau Heartiste
The Fundamentals – Three Things
Do Not Chase – Thinking Like a Woman
Two Words Women Love To Hear – It’s Complicated
These, and a few others, are my go to sources for insight, inspiration and wisdom.
Fitness
Danger & Play
*Any and all of the articles.
How to Beast
Why Your Chest Isn’t Growing – 6 Common Bench Press Mistakes
Muscle Building Mistakes – Top 3
Best Way To Build Muscle – Full Body Routines
Strength By Sonny
The #1 Rule for Long-Term Bodybuilding Success – Know Yourself
Improve Your Athletic Power – 6 Exercises
Get Your Wings – Build a Big Back
Fitness and eating well should have been a no brainer for me. But they weren’t. I am lucky enough now to be a youth fitness trainer. The benefits to working out are amazing and slightly addicting. There are other blogs dedicated to supplements and juicing but I am not at that level yet.
There are many more blogs throughout the manosphere and it would be hard not to find a few that you like and that are of use to you.
What Now?
The way I choose to use and interpret the information I receive from good ‘sphere and game blogs is:
Work out, eat well, dress well and do other shit than pick up women.
Sure enough your confidence (and testosterone) will increase and the vibe that will emit off of you through your body language, what you say and how you say it, will be that of a dominant and sexy man.
In the process of becoming a better man, or Alpha, you will no longer need help. Self-improvement becomes a way of life.
Throw a little bit of game in there and you’ll be better with women than ninety nine percent of your friends. Those are the men that the majority of people and women prefer, regardless of what they say.
Find your blog, site, book, whatever, for advice on self-improvement, but find it now. Lonely nights jerking off to old gfs from your metal spank-bank is no way to live a life. -dcl
